First Time Softee Lover By California Exotics

New to vibrators? Uncertainty about what feels right can stop you from exploring. First Time Softee Lover removes the guesswork with a compact, beginner-friendly design that delivers gentle customizable stimulation at your own pace.

What it is

First Time Softee Lover is an entry-level vibrator engineered for anyone starting their exploration journey. Its construction pairs a soft, body-safe TPE sleeve with a sturdy ABS plastic core, creating a non-toxic tool that feels approachable and reliable. The removable sleeve means you get two distinct textures in one compact device, letting you discover what resonates with your body without committing to multiple toys.

Multi-speed vibration gives you full control over intensity, and the whisper-quiet motor keeps things discreet. See the full BDSM Australia range of Slim Vibrators to explore other beginner-friendly options. Everything here is designed around comfort and simplicity—no overwhelming features, just straightforward pleasure.

Key features

• Compact size: At 5 inches with a 1.25-inch diameter, it's proportioned to feel manageable and non-intimidating for new users.
• Removable soft sleeve: Swap between the TPE texture and bare ABS core to find your preferred sensation without buying multiple toys.
• Multi-speed motor: Customize vibration intensity from gentle to more pronounced, letting you build confidence at your own pace.
• Waterproof construction: Use it in the shower or bath, and rinse it clean under running water with no hassle.
• Quiet operation: The whisper-quiet motor means you can explore privately without drawing attention.

Specifications

• Total length: 5 inches; maximum diameter 1.25 inches; lightweight for easy handling and comfort.
• Materials: Medical-grade TPE sleeve, ABS plastic core; phthalate-free and body-safe for worry-free use.
• Power: Two AAA batteries (included); simple battery compartment for easy replacement.
• Vibration: Multiple speed settings controlled via straightforward button interface; quiet motor operation.
• Waterproofing: Fully waterproof design; safe to rinse under running water and use in wet environments.
• Box contents: Vibrator unit, removable TPE sleeve, battery instructions, user guide.

How to use a mini & slim vibrator

Begin by installing two AAA batteries into the compartment at the base. Decide whether you want to use the vibrator with the soft TPE sleeve attached or with just the ABS core exposed—each provides a different sensation. Apply a small amount of water-based lubricant to reduce friction and increase comfort. Gently insert at your own pace, then press the power button to activate vibration. Use the control to adjust speed until you find a rhythm that feels right.

Explore different angles and depths to discover what brings you pleasure. You can pause at any moment to adjust speed or remove the toy entirely. Many users find alternating between internal and external stimulation creates fuller sensations. First Time Softee Lover pairs well with other toys in the Mini Vibes collection if you want to expand your toolkit later. Always prioritize what feels good in your body over any external pressure.

Care and storage

Wash First Time Softee Lover with warm water and mild soap after every use, paying attention to the seam where the sleeve meets the core. Dry it completely before storing. Remove the batteries and store them separately to avoid accidental drain or leakage. Keep the toy in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Use only water-based lubricants—oil or silicone-based products can degrade the TPE material over time.

Learn more

Understanding your preferences takes time and exploration. Reading about how other beginners approach vibrators can ease any lingering uncertainty. Discover tips and insights in our guide on Funfactory Mini, which covers beginner vibrator use and what to expect. Knowledge builds confidence, and confidence makes pleasure more accessible.

Mistress Athena's training notes

By Mistress Athena — professional dominant and kink educator, sole instructor behind BDSM Australia's library of training videos. Read her full bio →

First Time Softee Lover has become one of my essential tools for training submissives new to sensation play. I control the vibration speeds deliberately, watching their breathing shift as intensity increases. The soft TPE sleeve allows me to apply firm pressure while maintaining psychological comfort—essential when breaking down barriers in early scenes. Their surrender comes faster with this toy than with harsher implements.

Removable sleeve design offers strategic flexibility during sessions. I'll start with the sleeve attached for gentleness, then remove it mid-scene to shift the sensation unexpectedly. This unpredictability reinforces my dominance and their need to surrender to my choices. The compact size lets me incorporate it into restraint scenarios without cumbersome positioning. Submissives often find the contradiction between softness and control deeply submersive.

Battery power gives me absolute command over when stimulation happens. I can bring them to the edge repeatedly by controlling the motor, teaching patience and obedience through delayed gratification. The quiet operation means I can use it during protocol training without distraction. New submissives respond powerfully to this toy because it feels approachable yet remains firmly under my control.

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Why you'll reach for it

Add First Time Softee Lover to your collection for straightforward, judgment-free exploration. Its soft design and intuitive controls make it the natural choice when you're ready to discover what works for your body. At BDSM Australia, you'll find this beginner vibrator ready to ship discreetly to your door. Start your journey with confidence—order now and experience gentle, customizable pleasure on your own terms. Everything for Bondage Under One Roof.